My Spouse Just Asked for a Divorce in Missouri – What Should I Do?

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July 24, 2025

Few phrases hit as hard as hearing your spouse say, “I want a divorce.” Whether or not you saw it coming, this moment can feel emotionally overwhelming and legally confusing. While every situation is unique, there are important steps you can take right away to protect your rights, your well-being, and your future.

1. Take a Breath – Emotional Stability Comes First

Divorce is not just a legal process; it’s a deeply personal one. Allow yourself space to process the news. Whether you're feeling shock, anger, sadness, or relief, all of those emotions are valid. Surround yourself with trusted friends or family and consider speaking with a therapist or counselor who can help you navigate this emotionally complex time.

2. Don’t Make Rash Decisions

Avoid making big financial or legal decisions immediately after your spouse announces their intention to divorce. That means no moving out of the house without legal advice, no draining bank accounts, and no major life changes. You’ll want to think strategically—and legally—before acting.

3. Consult a Divorce Attorney Early

Even if you hope to resolve things amicably, it's essential to speak with a qualified family law attorney as soon as possible. A lawyer can help you understand:



  • Your rights regarding property, debts, and spousal support
  • Custody and visitation if children are involved
  • What documents or evidence you should begin gathering
  • How to avoid missteps that could hurt your case later on


An initial consultation doesn't mean you're committing to litigation—it just means you're informed and prepared.

4. Gather Financial and Legal Documents

Start organizing key documents, including:


  • Tax returns (past 2–3 years)
  • Bank and investment account statements
  • Mortgage and property deeds
  • Loan and credit card statements
  • Retirement account summaries
  • Prenuptial or postnuptial agreements


Having a clear financial picture will help your attorney advise you accurately and can be crucial during settlement negotiations or court proceedings.

5. Be Cautious About Communication

Tensions may run high, but try to keep communication respectful and documented. Avoid angry texts or social media posts—these can be used against you in court. If conversations become too volatile, let your attorney handle communications on your behalf.

6. Focus on the Children, If You Have Them

If children are involved, their well-being must remain the top priority. Resist the urge to speak negatively about your spouse to or in front of them. Keep their routines as consistent as possible and be mindful of how you discuss the divorce in their presence.

7. Know That You’re Not Alone

Many people have stood where you are and found their way through. While divorce marks the end of a chapter, it can also be the start of something new. With the right support—both legal and emotional—you can come out the other side more empowered and secure.

Need Help Navigating Divorce?

If you're facing the prospect of divorce and don’t know where to begin, our firm is here to help. We offer compassionate, experienced guidance through every step of the process.


Contact us today for a confidential consultation. 

This blog is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. For specific guidance, please contact our office directly.

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