Six Mistakes To Avoid During A Divorce

Getting a divorce is a very stressful time, but it’s important to know some common mistakes people make that can have a lasting impact on their lives long after the divorce papers are signed. The biggest mistake can be not hiring an experienced attorney to walk you through this process. Although your attorney can’t make decisions for you, their years of training and experience will inform the advice they give you so you can make well-informed decisions. 

Airing your dirty laundry and frustrations on Facebook or other platforms can hurt you if the other party can effectively use that information against you. Maintaining your privacy, as well as the privacy of your divorce matters, it is important to ensure that you put yourself in the best position possible at trial.

Another common mistake is not collecting and maintaining good financial records. You need to have bank statements, account numbers, tax documents, retirement fund documents, mortgage payment information, Social Security statements, etc. Depending on your unique situation, your attorney will tell you what documents are needed and how to get them. 

During a divorce, sometimes it’s easy to lose sight of the long-term consequences of what you’re fighting over. For example, you may want to keep the marital home but not factor in the tax implications of getting sole possession of that property. Maybe you could afford that mortgage and the property taxes when there were two incomes, but can you afford it on your own? Your attorney can help you think through the long-term consequences of your goals in the divorce to ensure you don’t put yourself in a financially precarious situation.

Although divorce is a contentious process that creates a lot of anger toward your spouse, you want to make sure that you control yourself in front of your children. Badmouthing your spouse can negatively affect your likelihood of getting custody. It is typically the goal of the court to keep both parents equally involved in their children’s lives, so you don’t want to make yourself look irresponsible or immature. This will only help the other party get the custody arrangement they are seeking.

Emotions run high during divorces, but you want to make sure you’re not making decisions based on emotion. Avoid allowing your feelings about your spouse to affect the decisions you’re making in the divorce process. There are high stakes in a divorce, and you don’t want to look back when your emotions are calmer and regret your decisions.



Finally, as appealing as it might sound, don’t use the divorce process to seek revenge against your spouse. The more you fight, the longer it will take for the case to resolve. And the longer it takes for the case to resolve, the more expensive it will get. Unless the issue you’re fighting over is truly important to you, work to make compromises and agreements with the help of your attorney. If it’s not that meaningful to you, let it go.

If you’re going through a divorce, reach out to Daniel Finder at Finder Law. He knows how challenging this process can be, but he has the experience to walk you through this process effectively and compassionately. You’ll receive personalized legal advice from someone who will aggressively fight for you. 

Call us today to schedule a consultation and get started on your case.